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Interview
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CHOICE RELATIONSHIP ARTICLES

Whether you are looking to improve your relationship and your love life or you are looking to find love, Choice Relationship’s Courses and Relationship Coaching can give you the tools that you need to achieve your goals.

Read some of the press articles we have been featured in:

Not as hard as you think

Last modified on 2010-04-23 09:35:25 GMT. 0 comments. Top.

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We resist all changes, including changes for the better. This is because our mental mechanism wants to take us back to the starting point: our Love Thermostat, our condition of stability. That is why we find a partner who fits the picture we have of ourselves and love. That is also why victims of violence seek violators. The problem is that you will remain a victim of these patterns for the rest of your life unless you take responsibility and forgive.

In one of our courses there was a divorced father who had trouble living in and committing to his family. I asked him how long his relationships usually lasted. His answer was, “Three years”. Later on he revealed that his mother left him when he was three years old. His Love Thermostat had told him that love doesn’t last longer than three years and, every three years, he moves on. When the first experience of falling in love cools down, we meet real love with our own thermostat. It happens automatically. And when we meet a conflict in the relationship, instead of forgiving, we change partners.”

Extract from an article about forgiveness in the Danish magazine Alt for Damerne, October 2006

The secret

Last modified on 2010-04-23 09:36:15 GMT. 0 comments. Top.

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If you want to be happy, bring happiness the next time you meet someone. If you want love, be loving. If you want intimacy, be intimate: tell your deepest secrets. If you are closed, analytical, careful and controlling, that is what you will meet.

The most important thing is that you stop believing that you are the victim of a conspiracy to exclude you from the community of relationships. If you believe that your single life is an illness, then you, and you alone, have to deal with your healing. Get out there and participate; wake up; contribute to the world; be responsible.

It is not hopeless, because people want to meet you as much as you want to meet them. At the bottom of it all we all want to be loved by someone.”

Extract from  “You choose to be single”, an article in the Danish magazine Alt for Damerne, January 2007

Love’s a tricky bugger

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(People come to the workshop with) A diverse range of needs: loneliness, frustration, stalemate, complete stagnation. But underlying this unique programme is the belief that we each play out a theme in our emotional lives, and that we’ll do whatever’s necessary to keep it going. Such strategies regulate your ‘love thermostat’; if set to ‘unlovable’, then unlovable you’ll feel, project to others and attract in turn. This is why things get stuck, keeping you in homeostasis.

Love’s a tricky bugger and we all need guidance in how to handle it. You’ll do a lot of work on your own and possibly shed a few tears. It’s scary to surrender to a sense of truth, but everyone’s helped without pushing or prying, and with a welter of funny anecdotes along the way.

Extract from an article “What is… The Choice Relationship Workshop” in Wavemagazine, October 2006.

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Turning relationships inside out

Last modified on 2010-04-23 09:37:35 GMT. 0 comments. Top.

Unlucky in love? Is your honeymoon period over? A new course can help

So what do you do when the honeymoon phase is over? Run for the hills? Grit your teeth and bear it? Throw the TV guide at him? We all have different approaches to dealing with relationships when they start to turn sour, which is probably why some of us are single, some happily married and others grinning and bearing it.

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The answer, says Teresa, is really quite simple: start with yourself.

Our experience in relationship is dictated by our perception of ourselves,” she explains. “We see the other person through our own filter, so our perception of them matches that of ourselves. The moment you start to have problems you need to look at who you are being in your relationship. What role are you playing? What are your expectations, your ideals, your emotions and your values? All of these limit what’s possible in your love life. You have to get to love the core of yourself before you can have a mature and lasting relationship with someone else.”

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One couple came to the course on the verge of divorce. The wife hadn’t been able to forgive her husband for having an affair and wanted out of their 11-year marriage. The husband wanted to salvage the relationship and had managed to persuade her to do the course in a last-ditch attempt to save the marriage.

On the programme, they realised the roles they had been playing with each other – he was the dominant Alpha male and she was the victim. Stepping outside their roles allowed them to be clear about what they wanted, and together they created a new vision for their future which included a fulfilling, creative outdoor family life. Last year Teresa received a Christmas card from them from their new home in New Zealand, thanking her for their new life together.

“It’s very moving to watch people realise their patterns and break out of their roles,” says Teresa. “When relationships aren’t great it affects every area of your life. Taking yourself on helps you on the road to relationship mastery.”

Extract from article “Turning relationships inside-out” in Insight City News, April 2007.

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